“You stabbed me in the back.” That’s how I felt about what she had done.
“You tried to call me out about something that I see as unnecessary drama.” That’s how she felt about me.
It’s been a few months since my friend and I contacted each other in any way whatsoever. To be clear we didn’t talk about what happened between us. We just stopped talking.
You’re probably curious about what actually happened — I know, I know… I would be too if I were you. The thing is, that doesn’t really matter. What matters is that the negative energy we both created and were feeding, by having too much pride + not giving in + holding onto grudges, wasn’t working for me.
Making a U-turn
I just finished running some errands and was on my way home. One way to get home is to drive through her neighborhood (through the street where she lives, to be exact) as I did many times before. While I was driving past her house I saw her car in the driveway. Made a U-turn and stopped in front of her house. I called her mobile phone to see if she was home and if it was ok for me to come in for a minute.
This wasn’t planned at all. But a voice inside me said “turn around, make a U-turn”.
I’m making it a habit to listen to that voice. Knowing that if I want to grow, to live a happy life and get rid of negativity, I shouldn’t fight against the things I know deep inside are what I Need to do. No matter how bad my ego just wants to fight and be right.
Drop it like it’s hot
She voiced her opinion and I voiced mine about the whole issue. We finally talked things over. We did not agree. But guess what? That didn’t matter.
I didn’t go over there to force my point of view on her. It doesn’t matter who’s right. I forgave her. And that’s something I did for me.
And the whole issue that kept us from hanging out, chilling and having fun together, we just dropped it like it’s hot.
Makes you wonder why it had to take that long
Are we going to be tight again? I don’t know. But what I do know is, getting rid of that negative energy between us, is a great step in the right direction.
Looking back there was no reason for us to take so long to patch things back up.
You lose precious time, by holding onto grudges. And trust me when I say, that those grudges, the ones you’re desperately trying to defend as being your right to hold onto, are hurting You (not other people) the most, in ways that you can’t even imagine.
Building the habit NOT to give in to your ego and to forgive is a powerful tool to create and keep amazing relationships.
Is it really worth it to be right all the time?
Or is having peace + being happy in your life and relationships more important?
Remember that some people are not meant to be part of your life. But you can still forgive them and let go. By doing so you’re making room to heal and move forward.
This week reach out to 1 person, you know you truly need to forgive to free yourself from the negative energy that’s building up inside.
Hold yourself accountable by letting me know in the comments below
- that you’re committed to follow through
- what feelings or thoughts are holding you back from taking this step
- why this is something you have to do
I believe in you. You can do this!
Thank you so much for your Love, Share and Perspective.
It means the world to me!
❤ & XX